Signs he doesn't like you (and how his texting gives it away)

1. You open almost every conversation

Scroll back a month and count. If the thread only exists because you keep restarting it, he's not choosing to talk to you; he's agreeing to. That's the single most reliable sign, and the one people least want to count.

2. His replies got shorter over time

Early on he wrote paragraphs. Now it's "haha yeah" and "nice". Shrinking messages mean shrinking effort. Compare the average length of his messages in the first weeks to the last few.

3. He answers questions but never asks any

A man who's interested is curious about you. If you can scroll a whole week of chat and find no question mark from his side, he's being polite, not interested.

4. Reply times depend on what he wants

Minutes when there's a plan he likes, a day when you shared something about your life. Reply speed that tracks his benefit rather than your message is one of the clearer tells.

5. Plans stay vague or get cancelled without a new date

"Let's do something soon" that never becomes a day. Cancellations that don't come with an alternative. Interested people protect time with you; uninterested people protect their options.

6. He doesn't remember what you told him

Asking about your job title twice. Forgetting the trip you mentioned three times. Memory is attention, and attention is the raw material of liking someone.

7. He's warm only right after you pulled away

You went quiet for four days and suddenly he's affectionate. Then it fades again once you're back. This isn't interest, it's keeping an option warm. Insincere warmth clusters after silence; real warmth is spread out.

8. Nothing personal comes from his side

You know about his weekend only because you asked. He never sends the unprompted photo, the random thought, the thing that reminded him of you. A chat with no texture from his side is a chat he isn't invested in.

9. You're editing yourself

You wait before replying so you don't seem keen. You delete the second message. You rewrote a joke three times. Your behaviour has adapted to his coolness, and your body noticed before you did.

Busy or not interested? How to tell

Busy people are consistent inside their constraints and they explain gaps. Uninterested people are inconsistent and don't explain. A busy man who likes you replies late but fully, and initiates when he surfaces. An uninterested man replies late and thin, and never surfaces on his own.

Check it in the numbers

Everything above is measurable, and measuring stops the story your hope keeps writing. Tealeaf reads a WhatsApp export on your phone and shows who starts conversations, reply times for each of you, double texts, message length trends and emoji over time, free, no account needed. The AI read goes further: his interest and yours, red flags, what doesn't add up, and whether the chat is cooling or warming.

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